Green and red flags in dating

Green flags to look for

Green flags are signs someone is kind, reliable and genuinely interested in you.

• 🟢 Respectful

  Respects your boundaries, your time and your 'no' without pushback.

• 🟢 Punctual

  Shows up when they said they would, or tells you early if plans change.

• 🟢 Great Listener

  Remembers what you shared and asks follow-up questions.

• 🟢 Generous

  Gives time, attention and effort freely, not just money.

• 🟢 Funny

  Makes you laugh without putting you or others down.

• 🟢 Honest

  Says what they mean, even when it's awkward.

Red flags to watch out for

Red flags are early warnings that someone may not treat you well.

• 🚩 Ghoster

  Disappears without a word instead of having an honest conversation.

• 🚩 Catfish

  Their photos or story don't match the person who shows up.

• 🚩 Always Late

  Regularly keeps you waiting with no heads-up.

• 🚩 Love Bomber

  Floods you with intense affection and big promises very early.

• 🚩 Rude

  Is dismissive to you, waiters or anyone they think doesn't matter.

• 🚩 Flaky

  Makes plans and cancels them over and over.

How to spot them early

• Watch actions, not words. Consistency over the first few weeks says more than any bio.
• Notice how they treat other people, not just you.
• Look for patterns. One slip is normal; the same thing every time is a signal.
• Trust how you feel after spending time with them: calm and respected, or anxious and confused.

How Flagg uses green and red flags

On Flagg, every profile starts with two green and two red flags people pick for themselves. After that, friends and dates can add flags from real experience. Flags from dates stay hidden for 48 hours unless both people leave one, so reviews stay honest instead of becoming revenge.

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